Detrimental effect of being “right”
Which would you rather be, happy or right?
In hindsight, I can say that there is little correlation between the two – and if there were to be any correlation at all, I believe it to be negative.
Many times, when we assert our opinions and views in the hopes of proving someone wrong, we ultimately damage ourselves. This desire to be right causes both parties to become increasingly more defensive, and often results in bitterness and alienation.
When I get corrected by someone, I do not respond with, “Golly gee willikers! Thank you for proving to me that you are right and that I am wrong. You are so smart, and I appreciate your wisdom and friendship”. On the other hand, what I do think is, “Gosh, you are a narcissistic prick. If I never talked to you again, I would not complain”.
To be listened to and respected is an innate desire for all mankind. Those who listen are typically loved, warmly welcomed, and appreciated. Those who assert corrections are often resented, avoided and alienated.